Today, I walked into the office like a zombie and thought "shoot. I have nothing to post on the blog" . When this happens, I like to do "Personal" blog posts like: Let's Talk so I'm thinking, what do I want to say? What frustrations do I have at the moment? What do I want to change? and NOTHING came. Weird.
Well, I can talk about something positive.
A while back I read an article about happy couples and it put a smile on my face because it was right on point.
Relationships are difficult for everyone. Relationships are difficult and it doesn't have to be the relationship with your lover, it can be any relationship. Listening, accepting, forgiving are part of the process and those 3 things, I find really tough to master. Today though, we will talk about the lover kind of relationship.
I have a feeling people get too used to their relationships. Too comfortable in them that they become b.o.r.i.n.g. We don't want that. I don't want that. ever.
There has to be something, long-term couples are masters at because I find that sometimes that feeling of "love" is not enough. Love is amazing but its work. Words and Actions are our biggest weapons, meaning, saying "I love you" is cute but, not kissing them goodnight does not act out those words.
So, here are the most important things I found on this article:
- Walk hand in hand or side by side
Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.
- Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.
- Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.
- Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.
- Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel
This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.
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I'm not saying I'm a master at love but it makes me happy that Luis and I do this list without really thinking about it :)
Hope this helps any of you having difficulties and for those who are thriving at love... keep on keepin' on